Connect Group Questions
May 24th, 2026 – Stop arguing and start to fight
Playing, Praying, and Growing together
Last weeks service
This Weeks ?’s
Discussion Guide
Summary
Pastor Kent shares a personal story about being driven off the road by a semi-truck and his reaction revealing that despite following Jesus for over 25 years, old sinful patterns still emerge. He addresses the common Christian struggle of trying to overcome sin through moral effort alone, explaining that 'you can't out good your bad.' The sermon explores why Christians still struggle with old sins even after salvation, identifying four underlying issues: misplaced desires, mistrust of God, misidentity, and malformation from past experiences. Rather than focusing on behavior modification through 'don't handle, don't taste, don't touch' rules, Paul teaches in Colossians that believers have already died with Christ and should focus their hearts and minds on Christ above. The solution isn't fighting sin harder, but recognizing our death to the old self and making Christ our primary focus and desire.
Intro Prayer
Heavenly Father, we come before You this morning acknowledging that we are broken people in need of Your grace. We ask that You would open our hearts and minds to what You want to teach us today. Help us to be honest about the areas where we still struggle and to receive Your truth with humility. Lord, we pray that You would speak to each person here according to their specific needs and that we would leave this time changed by Your love and power. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Ice Breaker
What's one habit or skill you learned as a child that you still find yourself doing automatically today, whether good or bad?
Key Verses
- Colossians 2:20-23
- Galatians 2:20
- Colossians 3:1-4
- Romans 6
Questions
- Kent mentioned asking himself 'What was that about?' when old sinful patterns emerge. Why is this question more helpful than just trying to 'do better'?
- How does the concept of 'muscle memory' for sin help explain why Christians still struggle with old patterns even after salvation?
- Which of the four M's (misplaced desires, mistrust of God, misidentity, malformation) resonates most with your own experience and why?
- Paul says we've 'died with Christ' - how does understanding this literally rather than metaphorically change how we approach sin?
- What's the difference between focusing on overcoming sin versus focusing on Christ? How might this change your daily spiritual practices?
- Kent shared how taking his Bible to school and focusing on Jesus naturally changed his behavior. What practical ways can we 'set our hearts on things above' in our daily lives?
- How does viewing yourself as a 'saint' rather than a 'sinner saved by grace' impact your identity and behavior?
- What role does community and accountability play in the process of sanctification that Kent describes?
Life Application
This week, when you notice old sinful patterns or reactions emerging, instead of just trying harder to be better, ask yourself 'What was that about?' and then intentionally turn your focus to Jesus. Spend time in Scripture or prayer, asking God to reveal what underlying need or brokenness might be driving that behavior, and how He wants to meet that need.
Key Takeaways
- You cannot overcome sin through moral effort alone - 'you can't out good your bad'
- Old sinful patterns persist due to four underlying issues: misplaced desires, mistrust of God, misidentity, and malformation from past experiences
- Christians have literally died with Christ and been raised to new life - this is not merely metaphorical
- The solution to sin is not restriction ('don't handle, don't taste, don't touch') but redirection - focusing our hearts and minds on Christ
- Sanctification is becoming who Christ already sees you as, not trying to earn His approval through better behavior
Ending Prayer
Lord Jesus, thank You for the reminder that we are not defined by our failures or our old patterns of sin. Thank You that You see us as saints, as Your beloved children. Help us to stop trying to fix ourselves through our own effort and instead to die daily to our old selves and live by faith in You. When we stumble and fall back into old ways, remind us to ask 'What was that about?' and then turn our eyes back to You. Give us the courage to be honest about our struggles and the faith to believe that You are enough to transform us from the inside out. We love You and trust You with our broken places. In Your precious name, Amen.
SERMON RESOURCES:
- Sermon playlist on YouTube
- View Kent's notes for the sermon
- Visit the Harmony of the Gospel
- Calendar of Upcoming Events @ Harmony
- Podcast
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