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September 27th, 2026 – Ekklesia: Be Light
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Summary
In this sermon, Kent explores the transformative identity shift that happens when someone comes to faith in Christ, drawing from Ephesians 5:8-14. Using the metaphor of light and darkness, he emphasizes that followers of Jesus are not simply people who have improved their behavior. They have fundamentally changed who they are. Just as darkness can only be dispelled by light, the old identity of darkness is replaced by a new identity as light in the Lord. Kent challenges the congregation to stop identifying as "sinners saved by grace" and to embrace their true identity as adopted children of God and bearers of light. He argues that many Christians continue to dabble in sin not because they lack willpower, but because they have never fully accepted their new identity. Using the story of his adopted nephew Cohen, he illustrates how a person who does not know their identity will cling to old survival habits, while someone who knows they are loved and belong to a family can live freely and confidently in that truth.
Intro Prayer
Heavenly Father, we come before You today as a group of people who are still learning what it means to walk in the light. We ask that You open our hearts and minds to what You want to speak to us today. Help us to set aside our assumptions, our defenses, and our distractions, and to truly hear Your voice. Where we have been living as though we are still in darkness, shine Your light into those places. Give us the courage to be honest with one another and with You. We trust that You are at work in this room right now, and we invite Your Holy Spirit to lead our conversation. In Jesus name, amen.
Ice Breaker
What is one thing about yourself that has noticeably changed over the years, whether a habit, a preference, or a personality trait, that surprises even you when you think about it?
Key Verses
- Ephesians 5:8-10
- Ephesians 5:11-14
- Matthew 5:14-16
- Romans 6
- Romans 8:1
- 1 Corinthians 6
Questions
- Kent said that Paul does not write 'you lived in darkness' but rather 'you were darkness.' What is the difference between those two statements, and why does that distinction matter for how we see ourselves?
- Have you ever caught yourself thinking of your Christian life as a list of rules to follow rather than a new identity to live from? What does that look like in your day-to-day life?
- Kent used the story of his adopted nephew Cohen to illustrate how someone who does not know their identity will hold on to old survival habits. In what areas of your life do you think you might still be holding on with an 'orphan grip' rather than living as an adopted child of God?
- Paul lists sexual immorality, impurity, greed, obscenity, and coarse joking as things that are inconsistent with being light. Which of these do you think is most normalized or overlooked in Christian culture today, and why?
- Kent asked, 'Why do we see righteousness as restrictive and rebellion as rewarding?' How would you answer that question honestly, based on your own experience?
- He described righteousness as a relief rather than a restriction. Can you think of a time when living according to God's design actually brought you freedom or peace rather than limitation?
- Kent warned that many people cross a line of faith and then go back to living their old life, never fully stepping onto the field. What do you think keeps people from fully stepping into their new identity in Christ?
- What is one area of your life where you sense God is calling you to stop dabbling in darkness and to more fully walk in the light of who He says you are?
Life Application
This week, take time each morning to speak your identity out loud before you start your day. Say something like: 'I am not darkness. I am light. I am an adopted child of God.' Then identify one specific habit, pattern, or area where you have been living as though you are still in darkness, and take one concrete step toward exposing it to the light. That might mean confessing it to a trusted friend, removing access to something harmful, or simply asking God to help you believe the truth about who you are in Him.
Key Takeaways
- Your identity in Christ is not just behavioral change. You have gone from being darkness to being light, and that shift is foundational to how you live.
- Many Christians continue to struggle with sin not because they lack effort, but because they have never truly accepted their new identity as adopted children of God.
- Righteousness is not restrictive. It is a relief. The things that look like freedom in darkness always carry a hidden hook.
- Exposing sin to the light rather than hiding it is the path to healing and freedom, because everything illuminated by the light becomes light.
- The church, the called-out ones, is meant to live visibly as light in the world so that others are drawn to the God who transformed them.
Ending Prayer
Lord, thank You for this time together and for the truth that we are no longer darkness but light in You. We confess that we do not always live like it. We confess that we have sometimes held on to old identities, old habits, and old lies about who we are. Right now, we choose to believe what You say about us. We are Your adopted children. We are saints, not just sinners. We are light, not darkness. Give us the courage to walk in that truth this week, especially in the moments when the enemy tries to drag us back into the old story. Let our lives reflect Your light so clearly that the people around us are drawn to You. We love You, and we trust You. In Jesus name, amen.
SERMON RESOURCES:
- Sermon playlist on YouTube
- View Kent's notes for the sermon
- Visit the Harmony of the Gospel
- Calendar of Upcoming Events @ Harmony
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